Managing Interruptions

Children can learn from a very young age how to wait their turn when others are talking.  From a Montessori perspective, this is a lesson of Grace and Courtesy.  In the classroom, we demonstrate to young children that it’s important to wait their turn and let others finish before talking.  We show the child how to signify that they would like to talk without actually interrupting those who are talking. […]

How to Avoid Using Food As Reward or Punishment

Promising or withholding dessert is not an uncommon parenting technique, and while it has the likelihood to work in the immediate circumstances, it will also likely send a long-term detrimental message to your child. First, let’s look at “bribing” children for behavior in general (giving them something for doing something).  When children are rewarded extrinsically for good behavior, they learn to expect rewards for that good behavior.  In other words, […]

Positive Discipline: Natural and Logical Consequences

When raising children, the necessity of providing for, loving, and keeping children safe is always coupled with the necessity of modeling and teaching character, self-control, and acceptable behavior. Discipline is what helps children construct themselves into conscientious citizens of the world.  Positive and effective discipline is based on the concept of consequence.  A consequence is the negative or positive outcome of a person’s actions.  Consequences naturally drive human behavior because […]

Setting Limits: Creating Positive Authority

As children develop, they become aware of (although do not fully understand) the concept of authority.  By authority, we mean the ability to direct actions and make decisions.  With this awareness comes two simple questions: who has the authority and what do they have authority over? Many of us were raised under the notion that parents have full authority by right (the old “do what I say because I said […]

Encouraging Self-Discipline and Development of the Will

The term will is often used with children.  Children can be described as willful or manipulative.  They can be classified as disobedient, and this is usually considered a direct result of their will or willful nature.  Children make choices that adults deem unacceptable and, traditionally, are considered to be trying to control situations or get their own way.  But, in the Montessori Philosophy, we strongly believe otherwise.  It is the […]